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All Alone & They Hit My Sailboat! This Is What Happens When We Separate

When Jason left me behind on the boat I envisioned daily trips to the ice cream stand, solo dance parties on the deck and watching all the fantasy and romance movies I wanted without the sound of his eye balls rolling next to me.

I was excited about my “me” time!  I had already played the scenes out in my mind, complete with an all-female soundtrack.  It was going to be me, Queen B, Gwen, Regina Spektor and the always fab Nellie McKay showing Ecuador how we roll.

Because let’s be honest.  After ten years of marriage and eight years of it being 24/7 full time travel…a little absence makes the heart grow fonder.  (Unless you are Jason, who is married to me.  In that case, you weep endlessly until you are reunited with your love.)

I wanted to go into full girl-on-the-loose, soul feeding, solo traveler mode.  But, then… reality.  Our biggest crossing yet (South Pacific, what what!) is closing in fast and we’re nowhere near ready. We have a list of boat chores sooo long it would make Santa Clause want to bury his head in the sand.

Jason is enduring long flights, a money hostage situation and going on a scavenger hunt for parts we can’t get in Ecuador.  Gah, I can’t pretend to be a girl on vacation. I need to be a tool slinging, boat project smashing, list scratching wonder woman.

I had lofty goals in mind when we said our goodbyes…and I was in for a bang alright, just not the kind I was dreaming of.

Well, I would be lying if I said I achieved the wonder woman status I was going for.  I managed to accomplish enough to earn my keep and hopefully impress my jet lagged man…but not exactly score any super hero titles.  One thing is certain however: I will blame any lack of productivity or extra beers consumed on those mafia run jet skis!  (Don’t worry Ecuador, I still love you. Every country has it’s A$$ [email protected]$.)

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Repairing Delaminated Windows On A Sailboat

We’re not experts and this is NOT a how to.  But, if you want to know how we tackled the project and what we learned along the way, you’ll find the full scoop here:  gonewiththewynns.com/windows-falling-out-jason-leaving

The Money Hostage Situation Explained

In the video Jason didn’t give the full story on our bank accounts being frozen.  What really happened? What did he do about it, and why did we stay with the bank who screwed us?

All good questions.  But, can you blame him for giving the cliff notes version?  He was pissed, stressed and trying to make big decisions in a short time frame.  He couldn’t wrap his head around how to hash it all out on camera yet.  So, he sat down and wrote a story to explain everything, plus a whole lot of good info on how we manage money while traveling around the world.  Full scoop here: gonewiththewynns.com//travel-money-international-banking

Patron Meetup?

While we may not always be able to organize meetups for the whole GWTW community, we do organize special meetups with our virtual crew (aka Patrons).  We have an entire adventure weekend coming up with them in Tahiti!  That said, we also host big meetups where anyone who wants to attend, can. We announce those on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.  So, if you ever want to meet up because we’re in or headed to your neck of the woods, leave us a comment anytime.

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Hello there! I honestly don’t know what to say, so I am going to tell you a bunch of random facts instead. I'm a fish eating vegetarian who hates spiders and loves snakes. I almost never took vacations growing up. I wanted to be Pippi Longstocking (still do). I misspell about every other word I write and still struggle with grammar. I love splurging on a good high tea (which is really hard to find these days). And whatever you do, don’t tell me I can’t do something, because then I'll HAVE to do it!

Comments (32)

  • Connie

    You are so brave! Love your adventures!

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  • Fred

    Fun sharing your adventures, hope it keeps exceeding your expectations…
    Not sure what caulk you’re using, but a few rules of thumb… Only apply what ya can tool before cure. For silicone use alcohol as the lubricating agent, for polyurethane, well some say 50/50 soap & water, but being moisture cured, adding water changes the chemistry & can cause failure from skinning outside & not curing inside. A solvent works best (mineral spirits for some), but each manufacturer has their own recommendation. Bondo tools, spatulas, spoons, etc work well, polish if possible. I used to have a Teflon coated tool that ya kept in the freezer, worked great! But got borrowed… Looked like ya had prepped things well, kudo’s! & Was just something I noticed. Lol, as a lifelong wood butcher & sailor (just up here in the un-salted seas, teehee) I’ve seen my fair share of frustrations & premature failures & hate doing anything twice (well… Mostly, lol).
    Keep a rag in the air, & Fair Winds! Fred

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  • Sam Walker

    I love the subchapters used in this video to tie the multiple small separate stories together. The segues were awesome. Beautiful story telling.

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  • Brenda Jones-Schneeberg

    I am so mad! I hope Chase freezes the accounts of those ski dooers.

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  • MJ Gillis

    Love the videos. We can agree on boat maintainance. There’s no getting around it. My man and I joke all the time about a part or system that’s quietly plotting RIGHT NOW to go out at an inconvenient moment. He’s up at the boat this morning try to replace the water filter. Should have been a 1 hr job, now 3hrs!
    Lastly, we have a personal money manager at Merrill Lynch but don’t do as much international as you guys.
    Best wishes and safe travels.

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  • Bettina Arrigoni

    You continue to amaze me! You are an inspiration and thanks for sharing. Where did you find your foldable deck chairs ? Are the water proof?
    Thanks,

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  • Richard Marshall

    I just wanted to thank you for all the info you provided on the Leopard window bedding problem. My wife and I are cruising the South Pacific in a Leopard 47. We took 6 new windows and 30 tubes of Dow caulk with us when we left New Zealand in June. We’ll be tackling the nasty window removal/replacement task in Tonga or Fiji. Misery loves company, right?

    We`ve followed you for years and hope our paths cross someday. Our best.

    Rich and Michelle Marshall
    SV Pogeyan

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  • Alan Solomon

    Another Awesome Video. As others mentioned I always look forward to the next video.
    I liked the fact that Singa gets her own big person deck chair. Respect for kitties.
    I liked the video but, as I watched it, I felt the music was not the usual cheerful music, a little dispiriting and from the music I found myself bummed that you were alone. Anyways you seemed to make it on your own!! You have to do what you have to do and if s__t happens than s__t happens. You are confidant, unafraid and courageous.
    Continued Happy Trails and Safe Sailing,

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  • Chip

    Love any video that has you on screen 80% of the time?

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  • James Dillon

    Great Job Nikki! Pretty sketchy on the sea doos! That sucks. Can you update me on the Tahiti meet up. I am not on Facebook. Thanks Jamie- you favorite Canadian fan! Travel safe!

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    • Curious Minion

      Hi James, Curious Minion here. Nothing new has been posted since the Patron update on July 17. The RSVP cutoff date is August 1, so exact details will be posted in Patreon shortly after they have a full head-count. Stay tuned!

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  • Paul

    Hi Nikki, great solo video. Where did you get that cool adjustable boat cushion that you and the cat were sitting on?

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  • Eric

    Wow! I’ve been following your travels since your RVing days. I think this is the first time I’ve ever seen you really upset and you had every right to be. Good for you. You have the best outlook on life.

    Your travels are fantastic to follow!

    Take care and safe travels to the both of you.

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  • Ernie

    Hi, I’m originally from Fairfield, CT. I had a 50ft Ocean Yacht. My son and I were at the mouth of the CT River in no visibility fog at a standstill sounding my horns continuesly when a bunch of partying drunks in a 65 ft Yacht ran in to my port side. His bow pulpit went through my salon area hull, then backed out and fled. Luckily my may day was picked up by the coast guard and they got him at Block Island. Here’s a guy with a 2 million dollar boat and no insurance. He did just under $40,000 damage to mine alone which my insurance paid and I guess they went after him. That was the scariest event I ever had on the water, you just never know what could happen.

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  • SolarSail

    Nikki and Jason – great videos as usual – thanks. Tip on polyurethane forming and finishing: soap water is not very effective. Use paint thinner or mineral oil, and it will usually not stick to the tool. If it gets splashed on the surface, the surface remains dry. Also use fingers instead of a tool to get a better fit and more control – unless the groove is perfectly straight with no corners and a tool can do the job. Keep on good sailing!

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  • Judy Conlin Hornbeck

    Omg…..Nikki…..were you scared at all being out there all alone? Great job editing both places between you and Jason. Keep up the great videos!! Always look forward to the next one

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  • Shearin Johnson

    The link to the full story about the bank problems is not correct. Curious people like me want to know!

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    • Curious Minion

      Fixed!

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  • William Berlin

    I saw you speaking of people being responsible. Do you think it was reponsible on your part to be alone and enter the water to clean your boat?

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    • Diney

      William, both of those factors made me uneasy, too. Being alone on the boat was almost unavoidable. Getting into the water to clean the bottom of the boat was a choice. Nikki is super capable, but what you can’t plan for is the unexpected. Like the jerks on the jet skis.

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    • David

      I didn’t like her doing that either, Lost a friend a year or so ago because he was diving alone on the Suwannee river.

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  • Dan

    Hi please subscribe me

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  • Bill

    Hello Nikki, Take notice of the amount of caulking you used, maybe a little less, but enough to do the job. You will find it much easier and less messy.

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  • Phil

    Thank you guys! Loved your last video….. very funny blog.

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  • Loni Alexander

    Great writing to accompany a wonderful video. I was curious if you ever get ‘alone time’ when you are together. Such as, going to the store alone, going for a swim, or even just ice cream. Isn’t it funny, when we are with someone so much we crave alone time, but when it is forced upon us, we feel like we are missing an arm.

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  • Byron Pepitone

    Enjoyed your update on Jason’s trip and your bump and run experience…… Love your videos…..

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  • Justin Cochrane

    Same

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  • Gerald

    Hey Judie. The article is temporarily mis-linked. I’m sure it will be fixed soon. Until then, https://www.gonewiththewynns.com/travel-money-international-banking is what you’re after.

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  • Judie Ashford

    “All good questions. But, can you blame him for giving the cliff notes version? He was pissed, stressed and trying to make big decisions in a short time frame. He couldn’t wrap his head around how to hash it all out on camera yet. So, he sat down and wrote a story to explain everything, plus a whole lot of good info on how we manage money while traveling around the world. Full scoop here: gonewiththewynns.com/alone-sailboat-crash-ecuador”

    Is this the right URL? I get a rebound to the same page, i.e. your (Nikki) narrative.

    Virtual hugs,

    Judie

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    • Curious Minion

      It’s fixed now. Thanks for letting us know.

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  • joyce tatler

    Wow. You were so brave yo do all of that on your own well done you are amazing. Jason is too of course but just Wow! for you xxx

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